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Sex should be anything but monotonous. While romantic kisses and the usual lovemaking sessions have their place in our bedrooms, sometimes it is nice to break free and do something exciting and adventurous. And what could be more thrilling for a woman than to take control of her man and ride him like a pro?
Sounds good fun, doesn’t it?
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For someone who has just thought about taking things up a notch, we have some good and some bad news. The bad news is it could hurt and get all messy, you could end up with your hair everywhere and sweating as if you just returned from hitting the gym
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However, with just the right moves, you can make your man go horny and want you all the more. It is probably what he has been always wanting secretly! Plus, you get to dominate him, sitting on top. But ever think about what to do when you are on top of a man. There is plenty to do we tell you.
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“Should I try it?” “Will I get it right?” These thoughts would have crossed your mind a zillion times. Some of us might not be comfortable showing ourselves on the top, but mind you, it’s worth giving a try. And once you do so, your man sees the other side of you taking on full control, going wild and looking sexy as never before. So come on, girls, it’s time to take the bull by the … Huh. Here are a few tips for riding your man.
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From childhood, our brains have been tuned to suppress our emotions and not discuss our physical preferences. Sex is and will probably remain taboo, talking of what you like and don’t like during sex is still a hush-hush affair. So how do you take charge or even be ready for it? Here are the tips to ride a man like a pro.
Shed all your inhibitions. Sex is not just for men, and great sex demands some innovative efforts too. It is important for the well-being of yourself and your relationship. Be confident under your skin. Your shape or size doesn’t matter. Let that passion inside you ignite your man as well.
Well, put on your sexy dress or lingerie, dim those lights and play some music to set the tone.
First and foremost, do not be in a hurry. Enjoy each other, be playful and have some foreplay. And when it’s time, surprise your guy by being all over him. Play with his hair, plant a few kisses here and there, don’t just pounce on him, on full attack mode! That is not the way. Create a build up slowly, indulge in foreplay and we will tell you how to ride a man during sex.
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It might sound strange, but being comfortable while getting into the act is very important. Do not feel you are showing a lot of yourself. Shed all the inhibitions and get ready to be the lady of the game.
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You might not know, but this new avatar of yours with your body over him is enough to drive him crazy.
Get in the moodSexy though it may seem, make sure to tie up your hair. You will not like your hair coming in the way on to you or his face when you guys are steaming in passion. But sometimes he loves playing with your hair and wants to tie it up. Let him do that. It’s kind of sexy.
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The beauty of this position is that both you and your partner can look at each other (eye to eye) in some variations, though you both can face the wall or you can face his knees and let him enjoy the view of your booty.
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If he is a booty guy, enjoy when he tries to get high and holds you there. Support yourself with the corner of the bed or put a pillow under your man’s booty to have deeper penetration.
Smooching or just casually caressing and kissing is so awesome too. It’s a great build-up to riding him like a pro.
There are many sex positions that men love, so you try whatever is comfortable. You are in charge, but be careful with your man when you try to ride on him. Be careful with the genital and testicles. Do not go very fast, or you will end up hurting him and pressing his thighs.
He is almost there, but a little more passion will get him aroused. Touch his genitals, the area near it, his stomach and thighs. He is just getting into the rhythm. So be patient until you feel he is all excited. Make him blush by whispering sweet nothings in his ears.
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Now that you both are comfortable, get into a rhythm. You can either hold his thighs, or put your elbows on his chest. Fold one leg of yours or both and go up and down or try sideways. He can hold your breasts or your hands.
Oh yes! The guys love this position. They get to see your boobs going up and down as you move. He gets to press your breasts and take them into his mouth. It’s very intimate too, and intimacy makes it all the more exciting. You can easily lean on him, kiss, nibble his ears, play with his tits, pull his hair and whisper a few romantic, arousing or nasty words, whatever you both like.
Woman on top might also be a workout session for some. It’s like squatting while trying to get the penis inside you. So go slow and let “practice makes a man perfect” work in your case as well.
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Since you are in charge, so be in control of your body and his. If you feel he is getting softer, take a little break, do some foreplay and start again. You can even play some sex games!
Play some sex gameIf he is very hard, be careful not to push him very deep into you with force. You never know, you might get into an awkward position while he risking a fracture. Yeah, don’t laugh. It is possible.
It’s not that you are in charge so the man can lie like a dead fish. Ask him if he would like to fold his knee or change posture. This position allows you to easily slide down and give him a blowjob too. Men do love oral sex.
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You can have his leg lying down or bending his knees. You can ride him on the sides, front and back and not just up and down. Swirling on him gives him immense pleasure. There can be many awesome positions to try if both of you are fit. Just try that if you want to ride him like a pro.
Strange as it may sound, you are the boss now. Since you are on top and your guy is in a submissive position, do those things similar to what he does when he goes down on you. Playing with his nipples, appreciate his wide shoulders and chest. Pull his earlobes, kiss his neck.
Be the manTell him how you like him penetrating you and guide him in reaching the spot. Do not suppress your emotions. Some men like moaning (just as women moan during sex) and it’s a big turn-on for them. Let the moans come, you enjoy the feeling too. Penetration is deep when you are riding him and he reaches your G-spot bang on. It’s an amazing feeling.
You can be on top but can come still very close, like sitting on each other’s lap with legs pressed on each other’s hips and kissing each other at different places while playing with hands too while he gets inside you. He can stroke you and this can lead to a heated orgasm for both or just you.
So go have passionate and erotic lovemaking, and with time and practice, we are sure you will master the art of riding your man … and believe me, definitely like a PRO.
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Now, if you haven’t been on top as much (or at all), a common mistake is to think you just have to get on top and get riding.
Big no-no. Why?
Riding is physically engaging. You need to put in effort, which helps you appreciate how much he works when he’s on top.
And while it’s not rocket science, chances are you’ll make a few mistakes until you get it right.
And to help get you there, I’m offering my two cents on how to ride a man.
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Men love seeing us on top because, among other things, it gives them a clear view of us.
On the other hand, it usually makes us feel really exposed and self-aware.
To build your self-confidence and help you get in the mood, go for lacy underwear. If you find full exposure unflattering, you can try a negligee or a silky robe.
For bonus points, leave your best heels on.
Oh, and a little secret: painted nails, preferably red, look mind-blowing against his bare chest.
He’ll love the sight of that, trust me.
Riding your man is not just another position. It lasts for some time, and if you’re bored it’s just going to be bad.
Which is why you need an introduction to make it more fun, more attractive, more primal session.
Watch him look at you as you slowly mount him. Kiss his neck, graze his jawline with your teeth.
Turn it into foreplay to get both of you all hot and bothered.
Feel his body beneath yours before anything even starts.
Contrary to what we believe, men love it when we take things slow.
He wants to savor every moment, and if you visit any forum online, you’ll see that men all unanimously cry out, take it slow!
He loves the feeling of you sliding up and down over his cock with all your grace and tenderness. Even more so than rough sex.
Use that slow tempo to touch him, kiss him, all the while grinding against his member. Stimulate him in several places instead of just one.
Now, I don’t mean you should fake anything.
I mean, your man gets a clear view of you, and it’s perhaps the hottest you’ll ever look during sex.
Yet, inhibitions stop us from letting our bodies react to sensations. Women fear it’s overreacting like they’re in a porno.
Dear, when you’re on top you should feel like a queen, and let your body express your femininity.
Make eye contact with your man every once in a while, bite your lower lip, or lick the upper.
Run your fingers through your hair when it starts feeling oh-so-good, and dip your head back occasionally.
It’ll drive him insane.
Or… him, either, for that matter.
Another rookie mistake is to actually sit on your man.
You could harm him and his penis this way, especially if you start to move a little rougher.
Not to mention you’ll have very limited movement.
All your weight should be on your legs, and arms used for support.
Grip the wall, the headboard, his shoulders, even.
Not letting your entire weight drop onto his pelvis will actually free you up for a whole new range of moves.
It will give you an opportunity to experiment a little too
I had to get my personal favorite on the list. So sue me.
Even though I said that the traditional ride gives a better view of your body, the reverse cowgirl can make a man’s head spin.
However, it’s a full-body move.
Without your breasts in the foreground and your eyes to meet his, you’ll need another stimulus.
Your ass is a great ally here, and every grind and move is a chance to show him how good it looks.
Having your man sit up straight, then arching your back to meet his chest is extremely intimate, too.
He will instinctively use his hands to stimulate you more which, coincidentally, helps you ride him better.
You need to get the riding sensation. Not just grinding, or clumsy bouncing and not much else.
Like I mentioned, feel his body under yours.
Your body will look and feel stiff, or clumsy if you keep thinking about what you’re doing and how you’re doing it.
If you need to, relax with a few drinks first to take the edge off and then initiate the foreplay.
While you should care about making him feel good, you need to think about yourself as well.
Make the experience as fast or slow as you want. Find your own groove.
The rest will come easy.
More nimble women can go for a reverse cowgirl, then gently lower their back all the way down to his chest.
This is a tricky pose, as his penis can easily slide out, but so rewarding when done properly.
And for those who don’t see themselves as the next yoga master, here’s a more creative solution:
Start by grinding against your man while you’re spooning, but stop him from going in if he tries.
Instead, give him a handjob from the same position, and then guide him inside you.
This way, all the penetration depends on you, just as if you were riding him on top.
Along with my mention of inhibitions earlier, one way to let yourself shine and enjoy this is to pepper the ride with some dirty words.
Whether as moans or whispers into his ears moments before you speed up the tempo, they can help you relax and boost his heart rate.
Not to mention they’ll make you irresistible and he’ll want to have you right then and there.
Experiment!
If need be, I’ll say it louder for those of you in the back.
Try to get rid of your nervousness. Have a few drinks, flirt, tease, and put on your favorite music.
Listen to your own body, then listen to his. The moves will come to you naturally when you relax and focus on the experience as a whole.
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Sometimes one of you or both of you get so tired that it's scary to think about bed exploits. But you still want to relieve tension or give a little sexual attention to your beloved. Just for this case, there is a great option for "lazy sex", which we will tell you about now.
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Let it not at all look like those juicy erotic scenes that are not ashamed to show in the cinema. But lazy sex is better than none at all.
Of course, if you're so exhausted that you hate the whole world, it's probably best to go and sleep. But if you're just not in a very good mood and don't feel good, then this is a way to both raise your mood and improve your well-being.
How to do it? Here are some options:
You can just watch adult videos and touch each other. Hugging, kissing, cuddling in teenage style. Go back to the times when you didn’t do (because you didn’t dare) what you are just too lazy to do now. You don't even have to reach orgasm. Just be nice to each other.
Spoons are the most common, easy, and stress-free position for lazy sex.
Woke up in the morning, lying on your side and doing nothing. And you may not even wake up (although in the process you may still get a taste - and this will wake you up).
All you have to do is raise your knee a little so that your partner can enter you. And because in this position, his weight does not press on your stomach, it can also be used after a hearty meal.
Another lazy position in free translation from English is called “sofa vegetable” - “goof” in our opinion. As you may have guessed, it is performed without getting up from the sofa. The husband sits like he was sitting in front of the TV, and all that is required of you is to saddle him (the husband, not the TV) and sway gently (we hope he will at least turn off the evening news). The advantage of this pose is that you are located facing each other, and this should bring you closer (if, of course, you managed to take control of the remote control in time).
It remains to name such lazy positions as the cowgirl position (normal and backwards) - a man could relax in order to relax. And doggy style with pillows under your belly that you can lean on is for you. And you can also lie on the edge of the bed with your legs up - also not the most energy-consuming position.
Using sex toys like vibrators on each other is another great way to get an orgasm without getting tired. In addition, smart devices can bring a little variety to your intimate life.
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Prejudice is not the only reason that prevents us from taking a healthy posture.
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0We sit all the time: at the dining and working table, on the way to work and back, in an armchair with a book and on the sofa in front of the TV. And only sometimes we spend time on the road from one chair to another and for short sports. Even if you exercise enough, but at the same time remain in a sitting position for a long time, you still take risks Too Much Sitting: The Population-Health Science of Sedentary Behavior. get health problems and die earlier.
But the good news is that we can reduce the harm of this lifestyle if we squat more often. This is good not only for the joints, but also for the body as a whole.
In his book Muscles and Meridians. Manipulation of the form ”(Muscles and Meridians: The Manipulation of Shape) New Zealand osteopath Philip Beach formulated the theory of archetypal postures. Its essence is that there are primary positions that our ancestors took two and a half million years ago. And they're not just useful. Our body itself is designed so that a person can stay in a certain position for a long time without harm to the body. Including - to squat, Turkish or Japanese (kneeling with support on the heels).
There are no scientific studies supporting the theory of archetypal postures. But medicine does not deny their benefits.
It all comes down to a simple "use it or lose it" principle. Each of our joints contains synovial fluid. It is like a lubricant that nourishes cartilage. For fluid to be generated, two things are needed: movement and compression. If a joint doesn't move its full range, such as the hip and knee joints never flex more than 90 degrees, the body thinks it's not being used and stops producing synovial fluid.
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In other words, if you want to keep your joints mobile and flexible for as long as possible, bend your knees to the fullest often. For example, squat down. Studies also confirm the positive effect of this position on bowel motility Implementation of a Defecation Posture Modification Device.
A healthy musculoskeletal system not only makes us flexible and agile, it affects life expectancy.
Physicians in Brazil and the USA have found that flexibility, muscle strength and balance are important for a long healthy life. They asked study participants to sit on the floor and then get up in a comfortable way. Observations Ability to sit and rise from the floor as a predictor of all-cause mortality in patients aged 51 to 80 showed that those who stand up easily had three years longer life expectancy than those who who cannot rise without support.
One possible reason why it becomes difficult to get up without support is that as we age, we become less likely to squat. Although the deep squat is a form of outdoor activity that has been an integral part of our past. We simply forgot how to sit comfortably and lost the ability to get up effortlessly.
Another explanation has to do with the evolution of toilets. When pits in the ground were replaced by chamber pots and prototypes of toilet bowls, there was no need to squat down. Now it is physically difficult for us to be in such a position, and therefore we avoid it.
Other blessings of civilization interfere with taking a useful posture more often. Sitting like this in the office can be extremely good for the hip joints, but the wardrobe of a modern person, not to mention business etiquette, makes this impossible. A rare case when we vividly imagine a politician or a top manager in a squatting suit is a staged photo with cute kids. At the same time, people sitting in the same position on the sidewalk most often make us want to quickly pass by.
This posture is considered primitive and is associated with low social status. We immediately imagine Indian peasants or African nomads, we recall unsanitary conditions on city streets.
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While we may find it uncomfortable and undignified, many people around the world still adopt this posture to rest, pray, prepare meals, or go to the bathroom. In countries where there are not enough hospitals, women still give birth in this position. Small children around the world, when they learn to walk, squat down on their haunches - and easily get up to walk on.
Take your time to say goodbye to the chairs to return to the "original" squatting. The same Philip Beach warns: any position leads to problems if you stay in it for too long. This is confirmed by the Association of squatting with increased prevalence of radiographic tibiofemoral knee osteoarthritis: the Beijing Osteoarthritis Study in China and the USA: those who squat for hours are more likely to have knee pain and develop osteoarthritis - damage to various joint tissues.
